I bet you’ve landed here because you’re super sick of the pace of modern life-especially the pace of modern mom life, and you’re looking for an alternative. An uncomplicated one. One that allows for the simple joy of just being with your family, without the overwhelmed and distractions from the practicalities and stresses and busyness of life.
(Like when all your little one wants is for you to sit and play with her, and you try- you really do try- but your mind relentlessly obsesses over bills and the dirty dishes and piles of laundry that are piling up, and you end up guiltily counting the seconds until you can sneak away)
And I bet, if you’re anything like me, you’d really like to experience this gift of life and motherhood and family while you have it, because why the heck wouldn’t you? These things are only the most important things in all the world.
Yet for some reason, our lives don’t tend to reflect this.
It’s time for that to change.
It’s time to do things differently.
It's time to uncomplicate your life.
And here’s the way you do it:
Go deeper, not wider.
Narrow your focus.
Go back to the basics.
Simplify, simplify, simplify.
This isn’t college-level physics, and it doesn’t require you to live-off-the-land or learn how to ferment vegetables. But it does require some adjustment (especially in your thinking), because if you want to change your life, you’ve got to change your life, know what I mean?
So go ahead and forget about the gym. Forget take-out for dinner as a necessity. Forget the slew of extracurricular activities that never end. Forget running from one thing to the next. Forget the need to enroll your little ones in educational programs and groups all the time. Forget arriving at the weekend a stressed mess, too tired to do anything special at all. Forget never having time for your own creative projects and hobbies. Forget about being just a shadow of who you used to be.
If this sounds awesome, then it’s time to uncomplicated your life, wouldn’t ya say?
So, here they are: the moving parts of an uncomplicated life:
Minimalism: Because less stuff means less mess means less cleaning means more time with your family.
Natural parenting-co-sleeping, breastfeeding, baby-wearing: Because this is how we evolved, because this promotes close bonding between parents and their children, because this will gift you more time with your little ones, because you don’t want to miss any of the precious moments.
Lots of movement & long, long walks: Because humans don’t need exercise-we need movement, because you don’t need to waste your limited time at a gym or on workouts, because you can move and walk and explore with your kids, because long walks are a source of inspiration and a major stress-relief, because you want all the time in the world to be with your family, and because you don’t want your time to be fractured.
Scheduling only the essentials: Because less stuff to do means more time to spend with the ones you love, because more time in your schedule means more adventures and crafting and fort-building and camping and trips to the library and baking dozens of cupcakes, and because you finally realize that going deeper instead of wider is the only way to go.
Rhythm, rituals, & routines: Because this creates much-needed flow and flexible predictability, because it gives your family a loose structure to rely on, and because it promotes a calm and slow way of life.
Reading real books: Because duh.
Simple acts of creativity: Because healthy humans are creative humans, because you need to express your creative sparks, because homes and families are creative labors of love, because you can shop less and make more, because creating is a celebration of life, and because it’s incredibly fulfilling.
Preparing real food for meal times together: Because this is what family life revolves around, because breaking bread is a metaphor for connection and understanding and conversation, because cooking and baking is slow food is slow living is slow life, because it’s a creative and loving gesture, and because you love your family.
Simple. Radical. Slow. Blissful. Uncomplicated.
A lifestyle that is naturally satisfying, without unnecessary pressure and societal expectations.
Don’t worry if this seems overwhelming, because while I’m just a very ordinary woman, I’ve spent years being amazed by the life-changing effects from this way of living. I can at least light the path I’ve walked this far, and just like a dear friend, I’ll tell you all I know :)
If you want to read my condensed life story, go (here). But for the nutshell version, keep reading:
I’ve been annoyed by the pace of modern life as long as far back as I can remember, which was a great thing because it eventually propelled me headfirst into minimalism, simplicity, natural living, slowing down, and the handmade and homemade life.
My big education came when I spent a decade in the field of massage therapy, because that’s where I saw firsthand the plight of the modern woman: overworked, overstressed, stretched thin, no time to work out, constantly battling mom-guilt, dealing with chronic injuries that will not heal, marriages that don’t work because there’s just no time for them, and on and on and on.
Basically, mom-life looked like the tragic aftermath of a category 5 hurricane. Not a good look. But the more I worked with these women, and the more I thought about life and simplicity and human nature and the fact that we’re basically “just” very smart animals, I knew there had to be a better way to mom. I was determined to find it.
Years later, after searching and reading and learning, I'm happy to say there is a better way, and it’s by radically uncomplicating life, stripping it down to the elemental basics, and finding joy in simplicity. That’s where the magic is. That’s where integration happens. That’s where the joy lies.
Eventually, I became a mom myself, and so have had the challenging yet awesome opportunity to put all of my theories and thoughts to the ultimate test. Now I can confidently say with absolute certainty that an uncomplicated life is the only way to go. If you want to stay sane. And have a good time.
Oh, yes-I’m also a Buddhist-inspired nature-lover, a dedicated homemaker, a lover of baths and naps and floor-sitting and mochas and books and chocolate anything. My partner and I are remodeling an old travel trailer for full-time living and it’s my dream come true.